When one of my daily posts actually helps a person it is usually an unintentional byproduct of me trying to be snarky. But forgiveness and its connection to mental and physical health is an interest of mine. I fought and overcame excruciating back pain with a small amount of physical therapy and a large dose of forgiveness. It works. In this spirit I share the REACH method:
- Recall the hurt: Acknowledge the hurt without brushing off your feelings and make a decision to forgive without retaliation.
- Empathize: Try to understand why the person who wronged you might have done so, so you can heal.
- Altruistic gift: Give the gift of forgiveness.
- Commit: Write down who you forgave and your decision to forgive, so you can better commit and make the forgiveness last.
- Hold onto forgiveness: Come back to your decision and hold onto the reason you chose to forgive.
You can actually download the workbook at: reach.discoverforgiveness.org
Forgiving someone can help relieve depression, anxiety and physical maladies. (Look for my new self-help book coming soon: The Forgiveness Diet)
Then, if you are still unable to forgive, rededicate your life to making the bastard suffer!
(But be sure to have a supply of Extra Strength Bayer Back and Body Pain Reliever on hand).