I learned something new from the AARP today. 1 in 4 couples sleep in separate bedrooms and, on average, gain an extra 37 minutes of restful sleep. Apparently that’s a good thing for a variety of reasons including restless movements, snoring and use of electronics in bed.
In my 48 years with Linda we have always had one residence, one joint checking account and one bed. Our money, living space and bed were always shared (with me getting most of the drawers and closet space; fashion is my jam!); no separate accounts, hidden funds or secret hiding places. But I hear that is old fashioned. The “till death do us part” only applies in half the marriages. So, in preparation, many couples maintain a large measure of independence through separate checking accounts, credit cards, responsibilities for monthly bills and now, bedrooms.
How to maintain intimacy. The couples have a variety of options; each other’s room, the kitchen counter (after a dramatic sweep of the dishes, the back seat of the Tesla, the laundry room (during the spin cycle), or when all else fails; ZOOM!